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Sunday, November 13, 2011

Time: A Friend, and an Enemy

Time changes so quickly. Circumstances you know one day may come, rear their ugly heads and force your hand. On October 9th, we celebrated Mom's 85th birthday. Now in the hospital, we are faced with the fact she can no longer live on her own, and because of health problems that force our hand, my sisters and I will be meeting with the hospital social worker to determine where she will go. Whether assisted living, or adult foster care, the realization that yes our mother is declining, and because of the care she needs, living with one of us is no longer an option. She seems fine with assisted living, and hopefully that will be the solution. We love our Mom. This new turn in the road is hard to face, but necessary. I know there are more of you that have faced this situation. How have you or do you cope? Right now, I don't know how.


Anonymous said...

Laurie, this is a tough one isn"t it? You do what you have to do, and you make sure your mother is safe, and don"t let a day go by without telling her how much you love her. And then Laurie, you pray, yoy pray for the strength you need to get through and I found it very helpful to journal..take care Debbie (Maine)

Pearl said...

Sorry to hear about this Laurie, the jounaling sounds like a good way to go. I just went through this last week with my sisters Father-in-law. But unfortunatly he had real bad cancer and passed. I haven't had to go through what your doing right now but I know it is coming. Just keep talking to others to find your way. Love ya, Pearl

Diane said...

I know it's very hard. I'm glad you have your sisters to help you with the difficult decisions. Laurie, I'm going to do my blog on this today. It just opened up a lot of things. I know you'll do what's best for your mom. Blessings, Diane

Anonymous said...

How do you cope? I guess one day at a time. Change is ongoing, and we have to adjust with it. Since my mom passed in August, Dad has had to make some very big adjustments. He is still at home, but we (my brothers & I) are visiting and calling more often, helping him as much as possible and getting and giving lots of hugs.
Sending loving thoughts your way,

Kim said...

I'm thinking of your family as you make this tough decision. I don't like change--it's just too hard. I have to try to look at the bright side of the situation. Your bright side as I see it is that your mom has lived long enough for you to have this decision to face. We are quite short on parents as my dad died at 52, my father-in-law at 62, and mother-in-law at 52, so we didn't have the opportunity to enjoy them in their older years.
I'm sure you'll make a good choice.

Colleen - the AmAzINg Mrs. B said...

Mr B's mom lives with us and I am getting just a small glimpse of what's to come - she'll be 80 soon and she's showing her age everyday..so I know we'll be where you are now. I'll send up prayers for all fo you..