Mom gave each fo her four daughters one of these letters on Mother's Day. I'll cherish it always.
Today was a hard day. Mom sold her car. Not because she wanted to by any means, but because she had to. Mom's car was everything to her. It was the last freedom she had. It meant that she could leave to go visiting, do errands, or just go for a drive whenever she felt lonely or bored. It was her lifeline. We knew this day would come, and dreaded it, but not as much as Mom. We understand the importance her car held for her. We understand where she is coming from. We understand the tears, the frustration, the hurt, and the anger. But Mom has to understand that it was out of necessity, it wasn't some cruel act by her daughters that made this day necessary. It was time. We will continue to be there for her, and make sure her life goes on as normally as possible. And hopefully, Mom will come to realize it was for the best, and find her freedom again.
9 comments:
What a change for your Mom. Hopefully she realizes that you are all there for her and want to help her, how lucky she is for that!
Cathy
What a sweet letter from your mom Laurie. I know she knows that you all are only making sure she is safe. It's a hard thing to be sure.
so touching..I'm sure your mother will adjust to the car
What a lovely letter/poem from your mom, Laurie. This surely is a treasure.
It's so hard sometimes to see your parents grow old and face the changes they have to. My prayers to you, your sisters and your mom. Life can be hard. Diane
That will be the hardest thing for me too when I reach the age, it is total freedom! But I know she has you and your sisters to help out and maybe the bus system? Hope you have buse's that would be nice. It going to be hard for her but hopefully she will understand. Have a nice wkend, Pearl
Oh, I know how difficult this must have been for all of you to make the decision for your mom. My two sisters and I agonized over that exact dilemma when our mother reached that point. It was so hard for her and for us. Very tough decisions...you have done the right thing for her out of deep love!
Blessings on this beautiful Sunday!
Coralie
changes are hard.....getting older is hard......
What a horrible time! but it will come for all of us some day. Before long your mom will be ok and will remeber how blessed she is to have you all!
Hi Laurie, this is my first visit here. I found you at Corner of Cat's Mind. This post really moved me. It reminded me of the day when my parents "surrendered" their car. My mother never learned to drive and my father was just too sick (he passed away 2 months after from pancreatic cancer) I was so scared! It was such a huge and important step, it meant they were no longer independent as they used to be, it meant things were changing for them and for myself, but life goes on and as hard as it seems (and it is) it will get better. Just hang in there!
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